Negative emotions are often associated with rage, anger, sadness, stress and depression. Everyone on earth has a time of such emotions but how you handle them is what matters. Have you heard of people kill because of anger? Have you heard of suicide? have you heard of someone hospitalised because of depression or stress? We take these things lightly but they are very heavy and are very threatening to life and the society as a whole. In a family where there is always sadness and anger, they will tend to reproduce kids that are always angry or sad. You know the best way to teach a child is by actions. Children learn better when they see you do something. We might think that they are kids and so they don’t understand what is going on, trust me they are watching and they are picking up those things.
It is ok to get angry but don’t let your anger enter the next day. What ever it is that is so annoying and so unacceptable, handle it amicably. What do you think is the best way to handle anger? Walk away or shout or talk about it? I know we all have different traits and so we have different ways of handling our anger but I must tell you this, knowing when to walk away and when to shout is very important. There are annoying situations that should not make your voice be heard and there are annoying situations that should be solved there and then. If you are someone and you know that your anger makes you do crazy things like killing, beating the other party or getting into a fight, I think you need a psychologist. Getting help is the best thing that can happen to you because you also need your peace. Getting angry steals your happiness and your glow. Anger is bitterness and when you are always annoyed by every little thing, you will never have a moment of peace and this can affect your work, family, school work and the relationships you have with people. If naturally you are a very calm person and then there is this person in your life that always gets on your nerves, I think you should walk away from that association because it is not healthy for you, everybody deserves to be happy and so do you. The best way to handle an annoying situation is to talk about it. It should not call for fight or verbal abuses. You know the funny thing is, sometimes when someone annoys you, they might not really know that you are upset until you let them know and so they might be shocked when you shout at them out of the blues. So to maintain your personal dignity and ego, just talk about the situation as a matured adult. Maybe you are living with someone and that person is dirty and disorganised and you are the opposite of him or her. Each time you get so upset because of the disorderliness in the room, I think in this situation, you should talk about it and if it is someone that is progressive, he or she will listen. It is possible that, that person grew up in a home where dirtiness is the order of the day and so he sees it as normal but you see it as abnormal. In a situation where that person does not want to learn neatness, for your own peace, just move out. But the solution to this will take another turn if it involves marriage, you can decide to keep on keeping the house neat and in order until your partner learns. Hopefully he or she will.
Another negative emotion that steals our peace is sadness. I think we have all had a share of sadness one way or the other. Maybe you failed an exam, or you didn’t get the job or someone broke up with you or someone dear to you died, you get sad. Sadness is a translation of our mood but I think we should not let it steal our joy for ever. we must learn to fight it.
When you have friends that listen, then your sadness won’t last. This is to say that we must learn to share our worries with someone. You need that one person that makes you laugh after you told him or her a sad story. It is one thing to have a friend that listens and it is another thing to be someone that is able to share things with someone else. I used to be that person that do not share what makes me sad with someone else. I wonder what I was afraid of, I am so independent that I want to solve all my issues without help from anybody, trust me I learnt the hard way and I don’t want that to be your case. I realised that after talking about that issue or that sad story, I feel so much relieved. Some times I just cry and let all that heaviness out. I don’t know the magic but trust me it works. Concealing what makes us sad is often prevalent in males than in females. Men have this ego that they don’t want anyone else to know what’s up with them and they die inside a lot. Mortality statistics have proven that men die earlier than women and if our men can correct somethings, they will live longer as well. A man would not want to share his problem because he does not want someone to see him as incompetent of solving their own issue. Listen our men if you have the right association around you, then talking about that sad moment of your life should not be an issue at all. Also most men don’t cry because they don’t want their fellow men to say that they are acting like women when they cry. I really do not get it, how can you have a heavy heart and then you do not want to make it light by crying it all out? Well if you can’t cry, just talk to someone about it to lessen suicidal acts in our community. All the suicide stories you have heard, if you investigate further, you will find out that no one knew exactly what was going on in their lives before they killed themselves.
Stress is just a negative state that we can’t run away from, you know why? The reason is because we will always have that job or that family to take care of or that school work to do. You can develop a psychiatrical condition called neurasthenia if you don’t treat you stress. This medical condition occurs as a result of build up of street plus any other conflict in our lives.
We must learn to relieve our stress by giving ourselves a treat. Find out that one thing that you do that that makes you forget about your work. You can go to the spa and have a massage or you go and swim or play games. There must be something that you enjoy, just do it and be free like the birds. I observed that when I swim, I just forget about every other thing, all my focus is just on the water and the movement of my hands and legs. Trust me you need that treaty.
As you read above, having negative emotion is detrimental to one’s life and the society. Let us work on ourselves, so that we can train children that will be healthy to the society. You hear about bullying in schools today because of what those kids picked from their homes. Maybe their parents are always fighting, maybe one person is always beating the other, they pick up these bad behaviours and practice them on their classmates. You hear about husbands beating their wives today or wives verbally abusing their husbands or vice versa, this is something they must have picked up while growing up and now it is hard to correct. We must learn to treat or control our negative emotions, so that we can become better parents tomorrow.
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